I usually like it when it's applied to people who aren't Stefan and Damon. That thing with Tyler I can understand why she would forgive it (if maybe not so quickly) but most of the stuff the boys do to her I really want to see her get pissed off about.

The flip side of it is that having written her this way makes some of her actions that COULD be explained by being angry and resentful seem OOC Namely, that she'd be down with the plan to kill all the Originals while they're linked. Because you COULD say she's mad at Elijah for trapping her in a hole and isn't willing to take the chance of Rebekah trying to kill her again and can get to not thinking the world would be better off without Finn and Kol but...that's not Elena (I have no issue with her wanting Klaus dead, just the collateral damage she wanted out of earlier and then decided she was cool with). *IF* they were writing her character with those motivations they should have also written her being angry at Stefan and Damon for more than an hour or so.

I'm also mad the show never let Elena have a mental breakdown over all the shit she went through last season. No no, let's use the finale for more of the damned triangle instead of exploring just how someone might react to how shitty Elena's life has gotten, and it's not like it was all sunshine and rainbows last season.